Friends 'R' Family

luvinlife · Moderator

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This post has been moved because even though the actual news story was in the News, the content of this post is more of an opinion/editorial on the actual news story.

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This story upsets me so much. The story broke about how a mom was arguing with her 11 y.o. daughter, then went into a store leaving the girl in the car and returned to find the girl vanished. As a mom of 2 teenage boys, arguments are as regular as dinner around here. They want to stretch the boundaries, I desperately try to hold on tight. They are boys, they adore blood, guts and gore,.. I think of all the danger. There just isn't a day that goes by that doesn't have one sort of struggle or another. My heart broke BIG time for this mom. The days and nights I spent crying over her despair, her fear, thinking she would never ever forgive herself if something bad happened to her little girl. I thought she would never ever argue with this girl again, if the girl returned home unharmed. Then the story of the body in the river and my heart breaks again. I begged God.. "please no.. PLEASE no!!! " and my heart broke for the mom even more. I was just so upset, hoping and praying so hard that it would not be the little girl, trying so very hard to ignore the little voice at the back of my head that said "you know it's her!". Then the autopsy confirmed it .. and again, I cried, my heart broken for the mom. Then I heard something about it turning into a murder investigation, something about a mom and another person, but I missed hearing the details. Everyone I asked hadn't heard the details. Was it the girl's mom that was the suspect? Each time the news came on, something had to happen to prevent me from hearing who this "woman" was. Last night I heard. Last night I heard they released the mom from holding due to lack of evidence. It WAS the girls mom that was being questioned. I could not believe my ears. The mom and her new boyfriend. I went into shock. The picture of the mom on national TV begging for her daughter to come back is still so vivid in my mind. And yet she knew all along where the girl was. All I can think of now, is how that little girl was with someone she loved and trusted and how that person, her mother.. led to her demise. I know it isn't proven yet, I know there is a lack of evidence, but that little voice is at the back of my head again and as much as I beg it to stop, I can't ignore it again. These stories upset me so very much. Ever since the story of Susan Smith, so many years ago, in the States. She also killed her little baby boys for the sake of a new boyfriend. I just cannot comprehend, my senses cannot handle the thought of a mother killing her own children. I can understand post partum depression, I can understand depression of any sort, but these are not cases of depression. When I met my husband, I made it crystal clear to him that my children were my utmost first priority, that I would never stand clear and allow harm to happen to them. And these stories upset me so much. How can any mother cause harm and death to their own children for the sake of a new man in their lives. My heart breaks for Karissa. In my mind I spoke to Karissa so often, trying to explain how parents, mothers think.. begging her not to hate her mom, to understand all we want to do is protect our children. And now I just cry for her. And wonder.. what was it truly like that day. Was there really an "argument" or was the girl trying to find a way of safety for herself. Maybe she didn't like the new boyfriend and wanted her mom to leave him. Maybe she seen something that her mother refused to acknowledge. Poor poor Karissa. Yet another extremely sad and heart wrenching story. crying

ResidentInsomniac · Site Admin

Luvinlife,

This is a tragic story; however, there are a few facts that you must keep in mind. Whenever a child is missing, the first people that the Police speak to are the parents. At times, this can take more than just a few hours.

The mother and boyfriend were not charged with anything. Therefore, it is prudent to remain as open minded as possible. If the Police had felt that Mom and the boyfriend were involved in the girl's death, charges would have been laid. This was not the case.

I will post all news items of this case in the News section to keep you and others up to date.

My prayers go out to the Karissa, family, the community and all of those who have prayed and in one way or another became involved with Karissa.